With Love, Songbird

Little Girl's Toys

Little boy's Toys

Okay, so the other morning I got out of bed and started my usual routine. Get out of bed at 5am, say my prayers until 5:45, hit the gym for an hour, back to the room by 6:45, watch the last 15min of Fairly Odd-Parents, and boom 7am is Spongebob time. While enjoying my Spongebob and getting ready for work a few commercials came on the screen. It’s getting closer and closer to Christmas, so they are advertising toys like crazy. The first commercial came on and it went a little something like this…… “Boom Boom Bam, Kill the aliens that’s trying to invade the planet and earn the magical slim that makes you immortal”. Obviously that commercial was advertiing something to the little boys right! I mean slim, aliens, being immortal…that’s every little boys dream. Immediately following that commercial was another, which sounded something like this, “Dress baby, bath baby, change babies diapers. When baby is crying, give baby bottle with the magical dissappearing milk, like baby is actually drinking”. Needless to say this commercial was aimed towards the little girl.

I know that every little girl wants to do what they see mommy do. We wanted to bake, clean, cook, iron. I totally understand those types of toys. I know that the same applies to little boys with the tool sets, HotWheels cars, riding lawn mowers. I guess what I am trying to say is….Where the hell is my alien destroyer toys? Growing up boys never had the reality of “what they are created to do”. As far as I can remember, the most popular toys for boys were Super Soakers, Hotwheels ramps, Laser guns, and super hero capes. I’m sure I am missing a few, but no toys, that I can remember, had anything to do with providing for a family, wifing up a woman, taking care of a child, getting a job…etc. Even though this is not the case for all girls, I do believe that we were programmed at a very young age to cook, clean, nurture, and prepare for a wedding. Barbie had the bomb wedding. Who didn’t want all that Barbie had? I mean really?

I think that my point is we wonder why some men never adjust to being a provider, never want to settle down, hardly want to grow up at all while at the same time it comes so easily to women. A woman can be thrown in a situation where a baby is crying and she can competely soothe that child with hardly any effort while some men are damn near to a nervous breakdown. I thank God for that nurturing side that I have inside of me. I love it. I love being a woman, don’t get me wrong, but I do feel that to a certain extent, I was “TOLD” what to want. I often wonder that if the same type of non-realistic toys were offered to girls (of course in the bright shades of pinks and purple) would guys and girls be sorta on the same page? Most women are ready for marriage around the age of 26-28 in some cases, while I know guys 30-37 who are like “I’m not ready for that type of responsiblity”. I do admit that some of these issues stem from personal beliefs, issues, perceptions, which everyone are entitled to. I repect that! I still think that to a certain point we were coached by society. I find myself at work getting along better with 33-40 yr old men, as we talk about last night’s episode of Southpark or Family Guy, then 20-27 yr old women, who most of the time want to talk about the problems they are having with their man. Men never lose that inner child. I love that about men. Women are kind of pushed out of that dream world, I think.

No one is at fault here and this certainly does not apply to every man and woman. This is just my brief revelation as I go back to listening to Spongebob and Patrick conquer up a plan to get a Patrick some type of award.

I will think of something else I am sure and I will edit this, but it’s time to get back to work.